No matter how good you are at your job, sooner or later, you’re going to make a mistake at work. In fact, if you’re passionate about what you do, you may be even more likely to mess up. It’s the dedicated people who tend to overcommit and overschedule – and that’s how things go wrong.
But even if you’re careful not to bite off more than you can chew, you’re going to have missteps at some point in your career path. No one is perfect, including you. The best you can do is to learn how to move on from your errors with grace.
Resist the Urge to Make Excuses
When you make a mistake at work, is your first impulse to look for someone else to blame? “Sure, I sent the wrong version of the report, but there were a lot of last-minute changes.” Or: “OK, I got the dates confused for the team meetup, but this organization is meeting-happy.”
It’s normal to feel defensive when you realize that you’re in the wrong. It’s even possible that you’re right, and others do share the blame. Playing the blame game may help you preserve your self-esteem in the short run, but it won’t help you move forward in your career. It might even hold you back, if you get a reputation for throwing other people under the bus.
On the other hand, maybe taking enough responsibility isn’t your problem. Maybe your problem is that you feel responsible for everything. In that case, you probably take it pretty hard when you do make an error. Your challenge will be to stop beating yourself up about it and move forward.
Start by working on your outward behavior. If you’ve made a mistake, apologize for it … but don’t overdo it. Repeatedly apologizing to your teammates won’t help make things right; it’ll just make you look insecure. The best thing to do now is to focus on what you can do to improve the situation. That will mean more to your coworkers than additional apologies.
What happened the day you messed up at work? Were you overtired, overscheduled, distracted? Were you trying to do two things at once, or one thing that required more than one person to do it right?
If you can figure out the pattern that contributed to your misstep, it’ll be easier to avoid making the same mistake in the future. Plus, your boss will like hearing that you’ve thought about how to ensure that this doesn’t happen again.
Build Better Systems
Want to make fewer mistakes in the future? Listen to the wisdom of UX designers and build your systems so that it’s harder to screw up and easier to recover.
“We all do make mistakes,” writes Moritz Bittner at UX Collective. “No system, no product, no situation can be totally free of the possibility to err. The challenge for UX, interface and interaction designers is to minimise the risk for users to make mistakes and — because mistakes will occur anyway — that the consequences are as little as possible. The best way to achieve this is to design with the error in mind. With all the obstacles that could cause users to make a mistake.”
Even if your job has nothing to do with design, you can create personal systems that help you minimize chances for error. Now that you’ve identified any patterns that lead to the mistake, think about how you could ensure that the same set of circumstances doesn’t occur again. For example, if you were tired, maybe you’ll make a special effort to get more sleep during your company’s busiest times. Or, if you were distracted, maybe you’ll batch tasks to make sure that you’re focusing on one thing at a time.
After you’ve done that, look for opportunities to put additional safeguards into place. Let’s say you emailed sensitive information to the wrong person. You may be able to avoid that in the future by disabling auto-complete for the address line.
Recognize the Folks Who Have Your Back
One good thing about making a mistake is that it shows you who’s on your side, even when you’re having a bad day. This is valuable information to have, not only because humans are fallible, but because all jobs and companies change over time. If your organization goes through upheaval – a merger, a layoff, a bankruptcy – it will be good to know who’s got your back.
That doesn’t mean that your understanding boss or supportive coworker will necessarily be able to shield you from problems. But it does show you which relationships are strongest and which colleagues are most reliable and sympathetic. Knowing that can help you no matter what comes down the pike. These folks may provide you with referrals or references later on – or they may just boost your spirits when you need it most.
Perhaps the best thing about screwing up is that it reminds you that everyone needs a break now and then. If you’re a high performer, that might be an especially valuable reminder. The next time a coworker or client or boss needs your understanding, you’ll be more likely to give it. And that will make you a better teammate, a better boss, and a better person.
Real success isn’t just about hitting goals and making progress. It’s also about becoming the person you want to be. Cultivating compassion for others – and for yourself! – is essential for that kind of lasting success.
Jen Hubley Luckwaldt